Dear Therapist: Do I Must Have ‘the Talk’ Once More With My Daughter?

Dear Therapist: Do I Must Have ‘the Talk’ Once More With My Daughter?

She simply said she’s gay. I’ve currently talked to her about sex with boys—how do We communicate with her about girls?

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Dear Therapist,

As a moms and dad, we securely think that it’s my responsibility to get ready my children to maintain positivity, healthier, and productive individuals both on the planet plus in individual relationships.

Then when my daughter that is 12-year-old announced this woman is homosexual, my brain started rotating. Don’t get me wrong—I haven’t any nagging issue along with her intimate orientation. But i will be totally lost with regards to simple tips to prepare her for future relationships.

We’ve had “the talk” about heterosexual sexual intercourse, therefore do I need to have “the talk” about lesbian intercourse? I’m additionally not sure how to deal with sleepovers. Do we let her girlfriends invest the when there’s potential for sexual activity night?

Please assist me with this specific paradigm change.

AnonymousIndianapolis

Dear Anonymous,

First, you’re currently in the track that is right making healthier relationships a concern for the young ones. That will be to state, we don’t think you’re because lost as you might think you will be, and that’s since the easiest way to get ready your child for future relationships, irrespective of intimate orientation, is always to model the qualities you’d like those relationships to own. As she gets older, you’re both going to be able to find your way if you provide a safe, open dialogue while also setting (and upholding) clear limits that will be renegotiated.

By checking conversations early and often—as in opposition to having “the talk” and being carried out with it—you’ll communicate to your child as i gather from your letter you’d like to do that you respect her sexuality and the relationships that will go with it. Continue reading “Dear Therapist: Do I Must Have ‘the Talk’ Once More With My Daughter?”